Most of us are familiar with all those captious thoughts that always tell us that we are not good enough, that put a doubt on our goals and weaken our accomplishments. These thoughts could be there to greet us when we first see ourselves in the mirror in the morning. These thoughts might be like, “you are so fat”, “you are unattractive”, “you are a slob, just look at your face, hair, waistline, hips,” and blablabla…
Such inner critic might meet you at the workplace or in any work that you do. In result to this, you may either come under too much pressure, or you will never get everything done, and no one even can notice you and you may just give up on your goal. It is also there to critique your closest relationships. With it, you thought like, “am I the only one whose appearance and disappearance does not matter to anyone.” Or sometimes thought that “he/she does not even love you. No one cares about you.” It will never last. Just don’t be feckless.
From the recent studies, it is clear that every person is divided; the first part of us is self-possessed and goal-directed, while another one is self-denying, self-critical and even self-destructive. Such “anti-selfness” perpetuates a negative thought process that refers to as the “critical inner voice.” A self-criticism is a good thing, but an excess of it leads to backfire, as it tends us to focus on our so-called failures instead of those small ways from which we can improve. Also, the self-trash-talk associated with the higher levels of stress and even depression.
It is fact that women have more inner negative voices than men, it is because we have been socialized not to stand out, so when we search to do so, our inner voice challenges us. But we do not have to live with the sound of this murmuring crow. We can do many things to soften or silence that negative voice. Here are the few tips you can do to manage your inner critic:
Whether it’s the matter of love life or your relationship with your family and friends, the only thing most people try to find is the ‘Happiness’. We tend to incline towards the person with whom we feel happy. However, this is not the case for everyone. Many of us would say, “I am not happy with anyone or anything in my life”, yes its the fact. I myself is the biggest example of the kind of person who literally was not happy with anyone or with anything in my life. However, after getting the blues for 25 years of my life, and after analyzing several things by my own experiences, I came to realize that our happiness is in our own hands.
How To Be Happy In Life?
If you really want to be happy with your life, the very first thing you need to understand is that the life can’t be perfect; neither yours nor mine and not even for anyone in this world. Once you understand this key point, you will for sure feel great! You have food to eat, a cozy bed to sleep and of course the accessibility to internet via which you are able to read this article…think about the people who can’t even arrange their bread and butter, think about those who have no roof over their head and you will feel like you are the happiest person in the entire world.
Another big cause of sorrow is the feeling of selflessness. Yes, you heard it right. Sometimes, putting the needs and wishes of others over yours could be the biggest cause of unhappiness and disappointments. I am not saying that you should stop thinking about your loved ones, I am not saying that you should be selfish, but yes, I am saying that you should be concerned more about yourself rather than thinking all the time about everyone else. Once you will start giving time to yourself, once you’ll start keeping your wishes above everything else, you will definitely see a big change in your life.
When it comes to happiness, being financially independent is another thing that comes in my mind. I have seen women who do not work and are completely dependent on their husbands or children. Since they do not earn, they can’t even buy a simple thing that would bring a smile to their face. Every time they think of getting anything, they have to ask for it. On the other hand, if you are independent, you would be able to fulfill your small dreams, and believe me, nothing is more pleasing than fulfilling your dreams with your own, with your own money.
The last yet another important thing that itself has the potential to ruin your joy, or to fill your heart with all the happiness of life is your love relationship. Get rid of a person who do not value you, get rid of someone who do not care about your dreams, your goals, separate yourself from the one who always makes you cry. Yeah baby, don’t ruin your life for someone who is not worthy, you deserve ultimate love, you deserve the care and you deserve to be happy in your life!
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