Most of us are familiar with all those captious thoughts that always tell us that we are not good enough, that put a doubt on our goals and weaken our accomplishments. These thoughts could be there to greet us when we first see ourselves in the mirror in the morning. These thoughts might be like, “you are so fat”, “you are unattractive”, “you are a slob, just look at your face, hair, waistline, hips,” and blablabla…
Such inner critic might meet you at the workplace or in any work that you do. In result to this, you may either come under too much pressure, or you will never get everything done, and no one even can notice you and you may just give up on your goal. It is also there to critique your closest relationships. With it, you thought like, “am I the only one whose appearance and disappearance does not matter to anyone.” Or sometimes thought that “he/she does not even love you. No one cares about you.” It will never last. Just don’t be feckless.
From the recent studies, it is clear that every person is divided; the first part of us is self-possessed and goal-directed, while another one is self-denying, self-critical and even self-destructive. Such “anti-selfness” perpetuates a negative thought process that refers to as the “critical inner voice.” A self-criticism is a good thing, but an excess of it leads to backfire, as it tends us to focus on our so-called failures instead of those small ways from which we can improve. Also, the self-trash-talk associated with the higher levels of stress and even depression.
It is fact that women have more inner negative voices than men, it is because we have been socialized not to stand out, so when we search to do so, our inner voice challenges us. But we do not have to live with the sound of this murmuring crow. We can do many things to soften or silence that negative voice. Here are the few tips you can do to manage your inner critic: