We live in the society where caste has always ruled over the purity of love; we live in a country where people prefer to kill their kids rather than allowing them to get married to a person they love. Every now and then we can hear the stories of the victims of this harsh culture that believes that the caste is above anyone’s happiness.
Falling in love is not a crime…
Falling in love is natural, and you are not committing a crime if you love a person from the bottom of your heart.
Most of the time, a person in love does not reveal that he/she loves someone who do not belong to his/her caste just because of the pressure of society. At the end, they just end their relationship for the sake of the fake “Aan, Baan and Shaan” (reputation) of their family.
Some couples who even go for fighting for their love are suppressed by their families either emotionally or by physical torture. And, if they go against them even after all the drama of their family, they get killed by their own parents or family members.
Be strong enough …
Believe it or not, you have the power to change the world! The only thing is, you need to be strong enough to fight alone for the right and to win your own battle. Yes, it’s not easy to convince people that you are right, yes it’s not easy to make them understand the depth of your love but your will power can make anything possible.
Parents must also understand that their kids are not doing anything wrong if they want to marry a girl/boy of their own choice. In the 21st century everyone has the right to choose his/her life partner and the constitution of India provides every individual the right to marry a person of their choice.
Don’t force your children and do not try to impose your dreams and thinking in your child. They are grown up now, let them take the decision of their life themselves; ultimately it’s their right. Don’t let the society and casteism ruin the dreams of your children, don’t let them be the victims of the cruel society you live in.
Whether it’s the matter of love life or your relationship with your family and friends, the only thing most people try to find is the ‘Happiness’. We tend to incline towards the person with whom we feel happy. However, this is not the case for everyone. Many of us would say, “I am not happy with anyone or anything in my life”, yes its the fact. I myself is the biggest example of the kind of person who literally was not happy with anyone or with anything in my life. However, after getting the blues for 25 years of my life, and after analyzing several things by my own experiences, I came to realize that our happiness is in our own hands.
How To Be Happy In Life?
If you really want to be happy with your life, the very first thing you need to understand is that the life can’t be perfect; neither yours nor mine and not even for anyone in this world. Once you understand this key point, you will for sure feel great! You have food to eat, a cozy bed to sleep and of course the accessibility to internet via which you are able to read this article…think about the people who can’t even arrange their bread and butter, think about those who have no roof over their head and you will feel like you are the happiest person in the entire world.
Another big cause of sorrow is the feeling of selflessness. Yes, you heard it right. Sometimes, putting the needs and wishes of others over yours could be the biggest cause of unhappiness and disappointments. I am not saying that you should stop thinking about your loved ones, I am not saying that you should be selfish, but yes, I am saying that you should be concerned more about yourself rather than thinking all the time about everyone else. Once you will start giving time to yourself, once you’ll start keeping your wishes above everything else, you will definitely see a big change in your life.
When it comes to happiness, being financially independent is another thing that comes in my mind. I have seen women who do not work and are completely dependent on their husbands or children. Since they do not earn, they can’t even buy a simple thing that would bring a smile to their face. Every time they think of getting anything, they have to ask for it. On the other hand, if you are independent, you would be able to fulfill your small dreams, and believe me, nothing is more pleasing than fulfilling your dreams with your own, with your own money.
The last yet another important thing that itself has the potential to ruin your joy, or to fill your heart with all the happiness of life is your love relationship. Get rid of a person who do not value you, get rid of someone who do not care about your dreams, your goals, separate yourself from the one who always makes you cry. Yeah baby, don’t ruin your life for someone who is not worthy, you deserve ultimate love, you deserve the care and you deserve to be happy in your life!
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Here are a few words by one of my male friends….
I am just pissed off with the male-dominated society. If a girl is being molested, all who is guilty is the girl herself. This is what these narrow minded people think…if a girl trusts someone and the same person tries to abuse her, it’s the fault of the girl and not the other person. I am angry that we still live in a society full of shitty people with extreme narrow-mindedness.
Feel really great when I come across people with this mentality in today’s world and I am thankful that society is also not lacking these good hearted people.